D) At first, finding new companions felt awkward. At 40 I couldn't run up to people the way my4-year-old daughters do in the playground and ask, "Will you be my friend? Every time you start anew relationship, you're vulnerable again," agrees Kathleen Hall, D Min, founder and CEO of the Stress Institute, in Atlanta. "You're asking, 'Would you like to come into my life?' It makes us self-conscious."

　　E) Fortunately, my discomfort soon passed. I realized that as a mature friend seeker my vulnerability risk was actually pretty low. If someone didn't take me up on my offer, so what: I wasn't in junior high, when I might have been rejected for having the wrong clothes or hair. At my age I have amassed enough self-esteem to realize that I have plenty to offer.

　　F) We're all so busy, in fact, that mutual interests -- say, in a project, class, or cause that we already make time for -- become the perfect catalysts for bringing us in contact with candidates for camaraderie. Michelle Mertes, 35, a teacher and mother of two in Wausau, Wisconsin, says anew friend she made at church came as a pleasant surprise. "In high school I chose friends based on their popular-ity and how being part of their circle might reflect on me. Now's it's our shared values and activities that count." Mertes says her pal, with whom she organized the church's youth programs, is nothing like her but their drive and organizational skills make them ideal friends.

　　G) Happily, as awkward as making new friends can be, self-esteem issues do not factor in -- or if they do, you can easily put them into perspective. Danzig tells of the mother of a child in her son's pre-school, a tall, beautiful woman who is married to a big-deal rock musician. "I said to my husband, she's too cool for me,'" she jokes. "I get intimidated by people. But once I got to know her, she turned out to be pretty laid-back and friendly." In the end there was no chemistry between them, so they didn't become good pals. "I realized that we weren't each other's type, but it wasn't about hierarchy." What midlife friendship is about, it seems, is reflecting the person you've become (or are still becoming) back at yourself, thus reinforcing the progress you've made in your life.

　　H) Harlene Katzman, 41, a lawyer in New York City, notes that her oldest friends knew her back when she was less sure of herself. As much as she loves them, she believes they sometimes respond to is-sues in light of who she once was. An old chum has the goods on you. With recently made friends, you can turn over a new leaf.

　　I) A new friend, chosen right, can also help you point your boat in the direction you want to go. Hanna Dershowitz, 39, an attorney and mother in Los Angeles, found that a new acquaintance from workwas exactly what she needed in a friend. In addition to liking and respecting Julia, Dershowitz had a feeling that the fit and athletic younger woman would help her to get in shape.

　　J) While you're busy making new friends, remember that you still need to nurture your old ones. We asked Marla Paul, author of The Friendship Crisis: Finding, Making, and Keeping Friends When You "re Not a Kid Anymore, for the best ways to maintain these important relationships. Keep in touch. Your friends should be a priority; schedule regular lunch dates or coffee catch-up sessions, no matter how busy you are. Know her business. Keep track of important events in a friend's life and show your support. Call or e-mail to let her know you're thinking of her. Speak your mind. Tell a friend (politely) if something she did really upset you. If you can't be totally honest, then you need to reexamine the relationship. Accept her flaws. No one is perfect, so work around her quirks --she's chronically late, or she's a bit negative -- to cut down on frustration and fights. Boost her ego. Heartfelt compliments make everyone feel great, so tell her how much you love her new sweater or what a great job she did on a work project.

　　46. Leslie Danzig thought making friends at one's middle age needed some reasons.

　　47. A well-chosen new friend can help you go in the direction that you like.

　　48. A few years ago the author felt lonely and depressed when she phoned her best friend in another city who was much wanted then but unavailable.

　　49. According to Kathleen Hall, one might feel sensitive in the first curse of making new friends.

　　50. Midlife friendship can help you realize your direction of life and reinforce the progress you've made in your life.

　　51. In Mafia Paul's book, to be a better friend, you should keep track with your fiiends, care for your friend's job, express yourself, accept her flaws and compliment your friend for her/his good dressing and job.

　　52. For the author, a girl friend might be the right person to under "stand her and erase her negative feeling.

　　53. According to Michelle Metes, midlife friendship is based on the shared values and activities

　　54. As a mature friend seeker, the author finds herself with enough confidence to offer and take rejection with grace.

　　55. With newly made friends, you can have a chance to take on a new look in your life.

　　交友之道

　　A)數(shù)年前的一天晚上，我發(fā)現(xiàn)自己陷入了焦慮中。事實(shí)上，一切事情祁如常，我和家人都很健康;我工作忙碌，事業(yè)有成。我只是隱隱約約感到情緒很低落，急需一個朋友能給我打打氣，跟我喝杯咖啡，聽我盡情發(fā)泄直到煙消云散。我最好的朋友住在加州—這個國家的另一端。我撥通了她的電話，卻聽到要求留言的錄音。陰影從此開始籠罩著我，孤獨(dú)是我沮喪的根源。我的社交生活已經(jīng)減少到幾乎沒有，但不知何故，直到那一該，我才注意到這一點(diǎn)。現(xiàn)在，這種感覺卻狠雛地撞擊著我。戈的那些老朋友們，從大學(xué)甚至孩提時代就已深交的密友，對我了如指掌，但他們一離開，也把我生活的環(huán)境一并帶走了。

　　B)研究表明，缺少社交生活對人的健康會產(chǎn)生長期的消極后果。還好，我妁焦慮期持續(xù)時間相當(dāng)短暫。l521在那時我需要被理解，是只有女性朋友才能理解的那種方式。我知道期望我的丈夫取代噴油的想法是 錯誤的：他不能，即使他能，我又和誰傾訴我對丈夫的抱怨呢?于是，我下定決心要結(jié)交新朋友，目標(biāo)是像我一樣——有孩子而且關(guān)注這個世界的婦女。因?yàn)槲疫@樣交友的目的性更明確，我逐漸意識到，我是可以進(jìn)行選擇的，我實(shí)際上是可以設(shè)計(jì)我的社交生活的。當(dāng)然它的消極一面就是我感到非常害怕。

　　C)畢竟，在中年時期交友要比年輕時困難得多一——這是個客觀存在的顯示，與我聊過的女性曾不止一次地指出這一點(diǎn)。41歲的Leslie Danzi9是芝加哥的一位戲劇導(dǎo)演，也是一位母親，1461她的看法是，在十幾歲、二十幾歲的時候，除了有特殊理由不能成為朋友的情況，人差不多可以跟所有人成為朋友。 你的大學(xué)室友，至少余因?yàn)樽叩帽容^近而成為你最好的朋友。一現(xiàn)在，我們則需要理由才能成為朋友。Danzi9說，“有很多人，我跟他們在一起的時候很舒服，但我不會因此稱他們?yōu)榕笥选Ｊ孢m度還不足以維持真正的友誼。”

　　D)一開始的時候，尋找新的伙伴的確讓入有點(diǎn)尷尬。四十歲了，我無法像我四歲的女兒那樣在操場上碰到人就問：“能跟我做朋友嗎?”。【49】 每次建立一群新關(guān)系，你就會又變得脆弱了，”，KathleenHall，教牧學(xué)博士，亞特蘭大壓力研究所的創(chuàng)始人兼首席執(zhí)行官，贊同這一看法。她說：“你是在問：‘你愿意參與到我的生活中嗎?’這使我們局促不安。”

　　E)幸運(yùn)的是，我的不適感很快就過去了。我意識到，作為一個尋找朋友的成年人，我變得脆弱的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)其實(shí)是非常低的。如果有人不愿意接受我的請求，那又如何呢?我不再是個初中生，那時我可能會因?yàn)榇┎淮钫{(diào)的衣服或者發(fā)型不好看而被拒絕。【54】到了我這個年紀(jì)。我已經(jīng)方足夠的自信，我以為我有足夠吸引對方的東西。

　　F)事實(shí)上，我們都很忙，以至于共同的興趣，譬如，我們?yōu)橹β档捻?xiàng)目、課程或事業(yè)，就成為把我們與建立伙伴關(guān)系的候選人聯(lián)系在一起的理想的催化劑。35歲的MichelleMertes是盛斯康辛州沃索地區(qū)一名教師及兩個孩子的母親，她說在教會結(jié)交的新朋友對她來說是一份驚喜。【53】 Mertes說，上中學(xué)對，我是根據(jù)他們的受歡迎程度以及成為她們?nèi)ψ拥囊粏T可能對或盧生的影響來選擇朋友的。現(xiàn)在，共同的價(jià)值觀和參加的勞動則成為我選擇朋友的關(guān)鍵因素。二她與一起組織教會的青年項(xiàng)目的好朋友，雖然性格不同，但她們的干勁和組織能力使她們成為彼此的理想好友。

　　G)令人高興的是，盡管結(jié)交新朋友是一件尷尬的事情，但自尊問題不是結(jié)交朋友需要考慮的因素—～否則，如果將自尊問題作為結(jié)交朋友的考慮因素，你也能很容易地洞察這一點(diǎn)。Danzig講述了她兒子所在的幼兒園的一個孩子的母親的故事。那位女士身材高大，美麗動八，嫁給了一位有名的搖滾音樂家。“我曾跟我的丈夫說，‘對我來說她太酷了，”她開玩笑道。“周圍的人都告誡我要警惕。但是，當(dāng)我跟她混熟了，才發(fā)現(xiàn)她原來是個非常悠閑而友好的人。”最終，她們之間因?yàn)闆]有“化學(xué)反應(yīng)”，沒能成為好朋友。“我意識到，我們不是同一類人，但這跟社會地位沒有關(guān)系。”【50】現(xiàn)在看來：中年友誼似乎能反應(yīng)你所屬的類型(或正在成為的類型)，從而加強(qiáng)你在生活中取得的進(jìn)展。

　　H)41歲的Harlene Katzman是紐約市的一名律師，她認(rèn)為，在她無法確定自已是否變樣的時候，最老的朋友知道她原來的樣子。她依然非常愛她們，她相信她們有時對問題的反應(yīng)能夠反映出她曾經(jīng)的樣子，擁有老朋友對你而言大有益處。【55】而跟新交的朋友在一起：紜可以翻開新的一頁。

　　I)【47】新朋友，如果選擇對了的話， 還可以幫助找到航行的方向。39歲的Hanna Dershowitz是洛杉磯的一名律師，也是一位母親。她發(fā)現(xiàn)，她在工作中新結(jié)交的一個人， Julia，正是她需要的好友。除了喜歡和尊重Julia，Dershowitz有一種感覺，這個健康且從事運(yùn)動事業(yè)的年輕女性能幫助她保持身材。

　　J)當(dāng)你忙著結(jié)交新朋友時，請記住，你仍需要與老朋友們培養(yǎng)感情。我們請Maria Paul，《友誼的危機(jī)：當(dāng)你不再是孩童時，如何尋找朋友、結(jié)交朋友與保持友情》的作者，告訴我們維持這些重要關(guān)系的最佳途徑。保持聯(lián)系。朋友至上。無論你有多忙，都要抽空定期與朋友吃頓飯或者喝杯咖啡閑聊。了解她的事業(yè)。知道朋友生活中經(jīng)歷的重要事件，并適時表示你的支持，打電話或者發(fā)郵件讓她知道你時刻都在想著她。坦誠相待。如果朋友確實(shí)做了讓你懊惱的事情，一定要(委婉地)告訴她。如果你不能完全坦誠的話，就需要重新審視這段關(guān)系。包容她的缺點(diǎn)。人無完人，因此不要糾結(jié)于她的怪癖～她經(jīng)常遲到或者她有一點(diǎn)消極——以減少挫折和斗爭。滿足她的自尊。真心的贊美使人感覺良好，所以要告訴她，你多喜歡她的新毛衣，她做了多么偉大的工作。

　　46.Leslie Danzig thought making friends at one’S middle age needed some reasons.LeslieDanzig認(rèn)為在中年交朋友需要一些理由。

　　【解析】C)。細(xì)節(jié)題。根據(jù)句子關(guān)鍵詞Leslie Danzi9和making friends al one’S middle age可定位至Cl段。該段中Danzi9說在十幾、二十幾歲的時候，基本上可以和所有人交朋友，但現(xiàn)在需要充分的理由才能交到朋友，舒適度不足以維持真正的友誼。可見她認(rèn)為中年交友需要。一些理由。

　　47.A well—chosen new friend can help you go in the direction that you like.選擇得當(dāng)?shù)男屡笥涯軒湍愠阆蛲姆较蚯斑M(jìn)。

　　【解析】I)。細(xì)節(jié)題。根據(jù)句子關(guān)鍵詞a well—chosen new friend和：he direction that you like可定位至I)段。該段首句指出：新朋友，如果選擇對了的話，還可以幫助你找到航行的方向。

　　48.A few years ago the author felt lonely and depressed when she phoned her best friend in another city who was much wanted then but unavailable.

　　數(shù)年前，作者給遠(yuǎn)在他鄉(xiāng)的最好的朋友打電話，作者當(dāng)時很需要她卻沒人接，因此感到很孤獨(dú)沮喪。

　　【解析】A)。歸納題。根據(jù)句子關(guān)鍵詞a few years a90和phoned her best friend可定位在A)段。句子是對整段的概括總結(jié)。

　　49.According to Kathleen Hall，one might feel sensitive in the first course ofmaking new friends.

　　KathleenHall覺得人們在剛開始結(jié)交新朋友的過程中會變得敏感，

　　【解析】 D)。細(xì)節(jié)題。由句子中的Kathleen Hall定位至D)段。該段最后一句提到，Kathleen Hall認(rèn)為每次建立一種新關(guān)系，人就會變得脆弱、敏感。

　　50.Midlife friendship can help you realize your direction oflife and reinforze the progress yOU’ve made in your life.

　　中年友誼可以幫你認(rèn)清生活前進(jìn)的方向和鞏固進(jìn)步。

　　【解析】 G)。細(xì)節(jié)題。根據(jù)句子關(guān)鍵詞midlife friendship和reinforce the progress可定位至G)段末句。現(xiàn)在看來，中年友誼似乎能反映出你所屬的類型(或正在成為的類型)，從而加強(qiáng)你在生活中取得的進(jìn)展。5 1.In Maria Paul’S book，to be a better friend，you should keep track with yourfriends，care for your friend’s job，ex—press yourself,accept her flaws and compliment your friend for her/his good dressing and job.Maria Paul的書中寫到，要成為更好的朋友，你應(yīng)該和朋友保持聯(lián)系，關(guān)心朋友的工作，表達(dá)自己的思想，包容朋友的缺點(diǎn)，贊揚(yáng)朋友。

　　【解析】J)。歸納題。根據(jù)句子中的MariaPaul’Sbook可定位至文章末段。該段列舉如何鞏固和朋友的關(guān)系。句子是對整段的概括總結(jié)。

　　52.For the author,a girl friend might be the fight person to understand her and erase her negative feelin9.

　　對作者來說，她需要一位女性朋友理解和化解自己的負(fù)面感受。

　　【解析】 B)。細(xì)節(jié)題。由句子中的the right person和understand等字眼定位至B)段。作者提到只有女性的朋友才能理解她的感受。

　　53.According to Michelle Mertes，midlife friendship is based on the shared values and activities

　　Michelle Mertes認(rèn)為中年友誼的基石是共同的價(jià)值觀和參與的活動。

　　【解析】 F)。細(xì)節(jié)題。由句子中的MichelleMertes可定位至F)段。Mertes說：上中學(xué)時，我是根據(jù)她們的受歡迎程度以及成為她們?nèi)ψ拥囊粏T可能對我產(chǎn)生的影響來選擇朋友的。現(xiàn)在，共同的價(jià)值觀和參加的活動則成為我選擇朋友的關(guān)鍵因素。

　　54.As a mature friend seeker,the author finds herself with enough confidence to offer and take rejecfion with grace.

　　作為一名成熟的交友者，作者發(fā)現(xiàn)自己有足夠的自信發(fā)出邀請和坦然接受拒絕。

　　【解析】 E)。細(xì)節(jié)題。根據(jù)句子關(guān)鍵詞a mature friend seeker和offe“'ejection可定位至E)段。該段中作者指出自己已經(jīng)成熟，能坦然接受對方的拒絕，也保有自信，相信自己有魅力。

　　55.With newly made friends，you Can have a chance to take on a new look in your life.

　　和新朋友一起，你有機(jī)會呈現(xiàn)新面貌。

　　【解析】 H)。細(xì)節(jié)題。根據(jù)句子關(guān)鍵詞takeon anewlook可定位至E段末句。而跟新交的朋友在一起，你可以翻開新的一頁。Take on anewlook和takeoveranewleaf是同類表述。